Perhaps you are aware of one type of “forgiveness”. This is known as “Confront Forgiveness” (see Matthew 5:23-24 & James 5:13-16). This is when you confront someone with their ‘sin’, “they” confess their guilt and you forgive “them”. This is a very powerful and effective way of building strong, healthy Christian families. Forgiveness is an essential element. And bringing an issue out in the open is very healthy, too.
But there are some issues and some circumstances that require the second type of forgiveness: “Hanging on the Cross” Forgiveness (aka “Cross Forgiveness;” although all forgiveness flows from the cross, this just makes it easier to communicate the two). With this “Cross Forgiveness” we join our Lord Jesus on the cross and say—regarding a particular person with a particular offense: “Father, Forgiven them for they do not know what they are doing” (Luke 23:34 NIV84 emphasis added). (I have discovered that this “Cross forgiveness” must be specific. If I just do a general “forgive them for ‘whatever'”, I have found I still stew and flinch when “it” happens again.)
I’m not sure which is harder. Perhaps you can share your thoughts on this. But I do know that sometimes I need to do this “Cross Forgiveness” and then walk in grace towards this person. I have witnessed literal miracles too personal too share, but I know this “Cross Forgiveness” is just as effective and essential in any healthy family—any healthy relationship with Jesus. And as I decrease and the Life of Jesus in me increases, I am becoming more and more “Forgiveness Ready”….
Lifestyle worshiper, have you found this to be so, to? Do you have any experiences with either of these two types of forgive? Any thing safe to share?
Main Text: — Ephesians 4:32 — Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. [NIV84]
Additional Scriptures to Renew Your Thoughts
A man’s wisdom gives him patience; it is to his glory to overlook an offense — Proverbs 19:11 (NIV84)
“For I will forgive their wickedness and will remember their sins no more.” —Jeremiah 31:34c (NIV84)
Later Jesus found him at the temple and said to him, “See, you are well again. Stop sinning or something worse may happen to you.”. — John 5:14 (NIV84)
“For this reason, since the day we heard about you, we have not stopped praying for you and asking God to fill you with the knowledge of His will through all spiritual wisdom and understanding. And we pray this in order that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and may please Him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God, being strengthened with all power according to His glorious might so that you may have great endurance and patience, and joyfully giving thanks to the Father, who has qualified you to share in the inheritance of the saints in the kingdom of light. For He has rescued us from the dominion of darkness and brought us into the kingdom of the Son He loves, in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins” (Col. 1:9-14). Amen.