“This May Be A Reason”


Date: 8-21-14

Text: Proverbs 21:9, 19 Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife. … Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife. [NIV]

The Big Idea: You get to extend the same grace the Lord Jesus extends to His Wife.

My Thoughts:
As we (Our church and I) read through the Book of Proverbs for the third time this summer, I feel the need to address this topic, especially since it is mentioned twice in this chapter. Indeed, though it may not be the reason, it may well be a reason the husband is more in the garage, at the bar, in the bowling alley, or at the….

Lifestyle worshiper husbands, you may be blessed to have a wonderful wife who does not nag or quarrel with you, who truly respects you; or you may be blessed to have one that does nag, etc.…

A blessing? Yes, you get to extend the same grace the Lord Jesus extends to His Wife, the church. And I am most grateful He only spent 40 days in the desert, and this was just once, and He was led by the Spirit for a greater good. No, instead, He patiently, graciously hangs around His Bride until she learns to quit quarreling with Him and nagging Him….

So beyond man caves and garages, how’s it going, men? Ladies? Any thoughts on either a healthy or unhealthy marriage relationship and how the Life of Jesus can be more clearly manifested there? Or on how Jesus’ Bride sometimes nags and quarrels and yet, He does not spend time “on the corner of the roof?

Scriptures to Renew Our Thoughts
Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and eat with him, and he with Me. — Revelations 3:20 (ESV)

Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct.. — 1 Peter 3:1-2 (ESV)

In a similar way, you husbands must live with your wives in an understanding manner, as with a most delicate partner. Honor them as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing may interfere with your prayers.. — 1 Peter 3:7 (ISV)

A Simple Prayer:

Lord Jesus Christ, be the husband/wife in my Life my wife/husband needs right now. May I hear Your voice and obey Your promptings as You empower me by Your Holy Spirit. For Your Name’s Sake, Amen.

An Informal Introduction


Since becoming a believer during the Jesus People Movement, I have had a strong passion to be more like Jesus. My heart still yearns and burns to live a life that is pleasing to Him. For years I struggled in my own strength to produce this Life, but always ended in self-berating defeat. Then I met a wonderful mentor who led me to the understanding that the Lord Jesus Christ is my Life: He is the power to live the Life (e.g. Col. 3:4; & Gal. 2:20-21). Since this time, I have been on a journey to apply this truth to all aspects of my life and to encourage others along their journey with Jesus to do the same.

Thus, the birth of this blog. Since we all see through a mirror dimly and now know only in part, my desire is to get a conversation going about living the Life of Jesus through our human fragility. This conversation may vacillate between the spiritual & unseen and the physical & the very seen. Through this conversation, my desire is to discover balance. This balance is between this spiritual, rather mystical life, and a focus on behavior, which often leads to some measure of legalism, or what I call Behavioral Christianity.

This latter extreme is an attempt to live the Life of Jesus in the power of the flesh, or through  human effort. The other extreme seems to discount that the Lord Jesus valued the humanness of His creation, man & woman. He demonstrated this value:  (1) by being BOTH God AND Man, taking on human likeness; (2) by resurrecting in bodily form, confirming so by eating some fish and letting His disciples touch Him; and (3) by touching; Jesus touched many, not only when He healed them, but when He blessed them, too (e.g. Matt. 8:3, 15 & Mk. 10:16).

Through many conversations over the years I have learned the wisdom of Phil. 3:15-16: “All of us who are mature should take such a view of things. And if on some point you think differently, that too God will make clear to you. Only let us live up to what we have already attained.” At the risk of sound self-adulating and considering myself mature, I do believe that it is through the process of these exchanges we will come to a better understanding of what the Lord is making clear to us. But in the meantime, let us maximize what we have in common understanding: Jesus is the Risen Lord!